Yes, definitely think so.
信頼は言葉じゃなく行動に表れるものだからこそ、少し気分が下がってしまった。😔
Trustful people always do quick and done by action. and we can see what that person think of us because actions(what person did) is real.
But “saying” is easy, talk, text and emails or something.
We are always think and follow about what other side said, but it is not real thing yet until they did/done. However action is real, what they did for you.
By the way I am so disappointment and really tired what I did so much for.
Sometime think, it was just spent time and cost for. but I don’t like myself why I think like this. Actually not important about time or cost. The thing is, it is one way or not.
Conclusion, it was always not my convenience, I was always received notice or request and time was convenient for other side.
However, it was only giving. always never received from other side. Also anytime just “say”, never do/did. It is why tired finally.
Sorry about the talk cause really upset cause just received rude thing, so.
Looking back on it, always the time was I did too much for something or other side when I get feel down or tired. I mean, was not my thing, always to do for others only.
I think, it is good thing, but should not to do too much except on business and official volunteer thing.
At human relations, we have to care of each other. Easy words, it is give and take relationship.
And the most important thing it is one’s life.Your life is yours, your time is yours.
If always spent something for other ones, it is waste of life.
However about me. I am so stupid, I was always thinking of people and to do too much for, I do again again and over again, when I got requests some from other side. but I never get that I want from it. Only got tired or felt down. So I won’t anymore.
Weird to say, we are very easy called friend in this twenty-first century world.As I said before a bit, it is in my opinion, friend-ship is not exactly free.
It is not money thing, relations are built by actions, trust and time.
These are value than money and most important for people’s life. Friends are giving trust and time each others and we can know by action it is or not.
When I do something to real friends, like taken request, help or some giving for, I will always received lovely feel and actions from friends as well. And really similar about degrees of enthusiasm at both side. Feel, actions, responses, viewing or some balance are similar.
The thing is, because it is real relations so when you think or care of other side, also other side is care of you. And it is natural, uncalculating.
Actually it is spent something for each other maybe, but real friend-ship is never get feel tired because give and take, help and help each other.
If that is one way, it is not real one and waste of time probably.
For keep positive mind and best of your life, answer is very easy. Never think too much for others, just thinking of you, use time and cost for yourself.
And if you do with people, just care of each others that’s it so real friends are never gone.
You will think more who is think of you, then you should be keep just your real friends.
We can choose for anything and that is not wrong if you feel healthy and like it really.
If lost in there, just believe in peoples actions, not “words” that people said. actions will tell you what is the important for you.
Actions speak louder than words, really.
Yes I will.
普段はドライすぎて人付き合いが悪い、とよく言われるのですが、相手から頼られてしまったり何かをお願いされたり、辛い状況や相談を耳にしたりすると、それが突然の連絡でもめちゃ急いで応えてしまうタチです。それがあだ名(親ビンとか姐さんとかおっさんとか)の由来でもあったりする。
奉仕として活かせる場ならば良しなのですが、欠点でもあります。
特に、数年前に仕事上の某双方に挟まれ頼まれ応じていた事に対して最終的に全て尻拭い、本当に嫌な目に遭ったこともありましたので、それ以降はお情け情報や頼まれごと情報はスルーしてたのですが。まあその時はたまたま酷かっただですけども、流石に不信になるほどの案件でしたので・・
しかし、やっぱりこういうご時世があまりに続くと、持ちつ持たれつでやろうと励ましあったり、お互いに頼りあったりも増える分、誰かの力になりたいとか喜ばせたいという思いも出てきちゃうけど、それも相手次第だなあと思うことがあって、こんな感じ😔⤵︎です。
やはり、やりすぎない方がいいと反省しております。
言葉ではなく行動を見れば相手の気持ちってわかる、だからこそ気づく事もあるわけで。
つくづく思うのは、自分と相手のスピード感というか物事のレスポンス感、温度感、互いの考え方などのバランスが取れてる関係が続くのは、恵まれた関係なんだなって思うし、そういった関係って僅かであるからこそ大事。それをそうじゃない間柄にまで安売りしないほうが良い。
期待に思いっきり応えるのは、ビジネスの場面と公的なボランティアだけにしたほうが良いと思います。
人間関係の場合は、相手の期待に一方的に応えるという姿勢は良くない。
人間関係は一方通行ではないから、どちらか一方の都合や目的あってやり取りするものでもない。
お互い好きなことをやっている中で、たまたまその人間関係がそこにあって、知らないうちに同じバランスや同じ温度感で、意識せずともお互いにケアし合ってたら人間関係構築されてた、っていう。
ただそれだけだと思うワ。
